I spoke to my landlady today.
I told her that I can't sleep at night (which is true) and that I want to move out.
I asked her how much notice I had to give her. She said 2 months was fine, even if it was written on the contract that I give 6 months notice - but she (being a business woman) started talking about all the difficulties I'd encounter if I move. I had given it thought, but my situation had to change. I felt unsafe in my house, something had to give. I told her that I'd check and see, however, I was going to move out.
I walked back into my apartment and sat in the dark. I did something I haven't done in a while. I prayed. I didn't know what I was doing and I needed help into the right direction.
--- an hour later ---
My landlady comes down and says her husband wants to talk to me. That's never a good thing. The guy is more domineering. I went up and we talked. They asked if they put on the gates from me, would I consider staying. I had asked for this initially after the break in but they said I'd have to pay a ridiculous amount and they weren't willing to do it. I asked about paying it and they reduced the cost to just buying the materials (which is still a bit) and I can pay them back in installments.
Now, I'm even more confused. Admittedly the rent is a bit high. I'm hoping for a promotion, I'm not sure I'm going to ever get, but there's hope! If I get it and they make it retroactively, I should be able to cover my costs. The first and foremost concern was safety. They weren't as willing to give it before, which I why I decided to leave. Now, they want to increase my safety and that's a good thing.
I also have to be practical. I can't afford to move it. Well, I could but I'd have to go into debt to do so...therefore, am I really that willing? Then there's all the admin hassle but that's just the reality that goes with me moving. Anywhere I'd go to, I'd be paying almost the same amount (maybe €50 less) for way smaller. Plus I have all my furniture here. I'd have to start selling stuff or throwing them away, which would be a pity because I was hoping that when Leo and I live together, we can use our stuff while slowly piecing together our house.
Help, if anyone out there can give me something that I should consider more to help me decide, I'm all ears.
1 comment:
Rei, I can't quite imagine your setup, but hear me out:
Has there ever been a break-in there before? If so, it's truly the resopnsibility of your landlady to ensure your safety. I don't understand why they don't put in the gates and shoulder the cost. In the lease contract, I'm sure it says that improvements done to the property that cost over a certain amount should be for the account of the lessor, NOT you. And safety is non-negotiable. It would be different if you were in the Philipipnes and had close relatives to back you up; but being away from us all makes it solely your job to make sure that traumatic experience never happens to you again.
Moving might be hard, but there are benefits, too. It can give you peace of mind. You may have to sell some of your funiture but at least you'll have cash. And when you and Leo live together, you'll be able to buy furniture that's really suited to your new home.
Let me know how it goes. Will be praying that things work out for you.
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